14 years ago at this time I was trying desperately to get another hour of sleep.
My 4 month old had had a fussy night, and my husband had woken me up at 4:30 a.m. to say a quick goodbye.
He was going to NYC for a business meeting, had to catch a 6 a.m. flight, and was in such a rush that he remembers, crushingly, not going in to give our 5 year old his usual kiss on her sleeping head.
As I was praying to the sleep gods and the sleeping baby gods, the phone rang.
I ignored it. Just let me sleep.
The machine picked up and since I had it on silent (like any new mama does), I couldn’t hear the message.
It rang again. Good grief! If that wakes up the baby I’m gonna be so pissed.
It didn’t. I let it go to machine again.
Three minutes later, it rang again. Dammit. Dammit. Dammit.
I grabbed the phone and ran downstairs so the baby wouldn’t wake up, cursing whoever was on the other end.
It was my husband.
Wait…what? A quick glance at the clock. Wasn’t he supposed to be on a plane?
I could hear the panic in his voice as he quickly assured me he was okay.
What? My heart started to hammer, even though I had no idea what was to come.
He asked if I’d been watching the news. Uh, no. And unless it’s a yellow talking sponge or a small spanish speaking girl, you know that’s a silly question to ask me.
He told me a plane had flown into the World Trade Center and so they had to ground all flights in the entire country. He was calling me from Detroit.
Wait…what?? A plane? Oh my god! How horrible! Like a small private plane that went out of control??
The last innocent thoughts I had that day…and maybe the last innocent thoughts I’d ever have.
Over the next few minutes, I’d sit on my bed, hands covering my eyes as I watched the second tower fall – live – and listen to the horror filled voices of the news crews.
Over the next few hours I’d flit around my house with no purpose, holding my girls, crying and shaking and not knowing if I should put my kindergartner on the school bus and send her to her public school (I did not).
I’d wait anxiously for every call from my husband, chronicling his long and fearful drive home from Detroit.
Fearful. To rent a car. To send your child to school. To drive across two states. To make the drive to your friends’ house for dinner. To put your children to bed. To wonder if a bomb was suddenly going to be dropped on your small farm town with a population of 5,000.
14 years ago we all became a lot more fearful.
And then as the years went on, a little less.
But I can still remember the sickness and horror I felt knowing that my husband was on a plane to NYC that very morning, but the overwhelming gratefulness that, unlike so many others who woke up and got on a plane to NYC that morning, he was coming home.
That day made us all more cautious, more aware, more frightened, more compassionate and more grateful.
We all have our stories, don’t we? And regardless of how intense or how dramatic they might be, every story is not only powerful, but powerfully personal.
Things change in 14 years.
People move on.
Babies get born.
Towers get rebuilt.
But our stories, all of our stories, remain the same.
As does the hope … and the strength.
Rainbow from One World Trade Center, September 10, 2015 (photo from abc7ny)
*This post is an updated version of one originally posted September 11, 2012
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