A letter to the newlyweds, 26 years later

This week my husband and I celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary, which, especially now that I see it in black and white on my screen, is a something I’m having a hard time believing can possibly be true. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not the fact that we’re still together 26 years later that’s making…

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My other half

Last week my husband left for a nine day business trip in China. However you want to pronounce it, all I know is this: It’s the longest — in both miles and minutes — we’ve been apart in about 27 years. In our defense, we’re not big travelers. Or live exciting lives. But really, when my husband…

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Take me home

A couple of weeks ago I went off the grid. Like, really off the grid. To celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary, my husband and I escaped to Big Sur, California—one of our very favorite places. Big Sur is a place we’ve loved since even before we were married, but for some reason, haven’t visited since.…

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Mr. Do-it (at the last minute)

I’ve been happily married for 20 years and, as of today, 51 weeks. (Don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll remind you next week.) In that time I’ve grown to know the man I met on fraternity row way back in 1987 pretty damn well. He makes me laugh harder than anybody I’ve ever known, is the…

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Give Him a Break

My good friend Melissa gave me a great gift several months ago. It’s this write on/wipe off photo board that everyone in the family can personalize whenever someone is their favorite. You get the idea. A few weeks ago, this is what it said, courtesy of Thing 2:  The whole I’m not sure you’re really…

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He (desperately) wants to be alone

As most of you know, I’ve been married for EVER 20 years to a man I met when I was 18 and who was my first “real” boyfriend (I’ll let you play around with the reasons that word is in quotes). He’s hilarious, kind, patient, supportive, and best of all, tolerating — five reasons I’m…

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7 REAL Phrases That Make Me Feel Loved And Respected.

A few weeks ago someone on Facebook shared an article called, “7 Phrases That Will Make Your Partner Feel Loved & Respected.” I’m gonna be honest. I only clicked on the link because I thought (hoped) it was going to be a sarcastic and smart-ass article. It wasn’t. According to the article, “when you feel heard,…

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20 Things I’ve Learned in 20 Years of Marriage.

I’m a child of divorce, several times over. Well, technically twice, but since my mother and step-father split up and got back together a time or two unofficially before making it official, I think I can safely call it ‘several’. You might say I grew up without a very positive example of what a successful…

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The one where I realize that I (kind of) married Baio.

The other night Husband and I were uncharacteristically sitting on the upstairs couch in front of the tree, having a glass of wine (that is not the ‘uncharacteristically’ part, btw) and reading. And by ‘reading’ I mean I was flipping through UsWeekly and he was playing Civilization on his iPad, of course. One thing you…

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We’re Golden.

Today Husband and I are celebrating our Golden Anniversary (with a morning spent on a plane and afternoon spent with me blogging and him napping on the couch. He promises take-out P.F. Chang’s later while we catch up on “The Bachelorette”.  See what you have to look forward to, kids?).Oh, we’re not celebrating the ’50…

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